It’s Just A Bad day Not A Bad Life !

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Day 30 of 365

Hey dear mammas

Ever have “one of ‘those’ days? 👏 Right after some super awesome days… ⚠️ Makes ‘one of ‘those days’ more frustrating with the contrast…
Are you facing a bad day ? Things are not right/not going as you planned/not in your favor  ? Tired of mothering kids? Tired of Cleaning house ? Is your face looks like the one in picture now ?? Relax  ❤️

Today might not have been my best day but I definitely didn’t let it be my worst. Slowly learning that only I have the power to control my responses to negative situations.

I’m sharing this because I think it’s important for people to know that in life and especially us Moms and self-employed entrepreneurs….we all have our moments, our disappointments, our times when we can’t fake it and we just need to take a moment .. 💕Take a deep breath, Relax , Have a cup of water or coffee, Listen to music , Call your hubby for some amazing pep talks , Talk to a friend , Have an ice cream or your favorite food  and Also Know this, a bad day can be made better by going to gym,doing yoga/meditation,walking in nature and  bad days are okay! All of our bad days may be defined by different reasons but we must remember the reasons are temporary. I tend to look at situations as ever-lasting causing me to over think about a situation and continue to be halted by the emotions it brings me, but I must remember as these feelings are perfectly okay to have, they are only in place under the situation, which will not last forever. Talk it out, cry it out, do what you need to do to make your bad day, a not so bad day! Remember, All the days are not good but there is something good in every day. Just relax and keep going .. You don’t have to be PERFECT to go FORWARD ..
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Here’s some Motivation friends 

Remember , even your worst days have only 24 hours.

Not every day can be a good one. Tomorrow will be better .

When you’re feeling shitty, push yourself even harder.

I’m a fighter..I’m a warrior..I’m not a victim .

Life is tough, my darling. But so are you.

The struggle you’re in today is developing the strength you need for tomorrow .

Don’t be a spectator, don’t let life pass you by.

You can’t calm the storm..so stop trying .What you can do is calm yourself..The storm will pass .

Always end the day with a positive thought .No matter how hard things were,tomorrow is a fresh opportunity to make it better .

How do you deal with a bad day ? Let the discussion continue in the comments below .

 

Always Love , Devi ❤

 

 

Parenting Tips

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Today is Karthigai Deepam, a festival of lights celebrated by south Indians through out the globe . Karthigai Deepam happens to be auspicious.Row of clay lamps are lit in the house & work place to bring peace & prosperity. It is worshiped to bring happiness in the lives & ward off all the troubles in life🕉

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As I grew up I watched my Mom light an oil/ghee lamp every morning to start the day with positivity and close the day by lighting a oil/ghee lamp to give thanks for our daily blessings. Starting the day with positive intentions and ending the day with a grateful heart is something I think we all should do. Lighting a lamp brings peace and positivity to our soul . My Mom is my greatest inspiration.. following her ..

Teach kids NOT to forget our roots . Our Culture,Heritage , Tradition is the one which moulds us  . I believe all custom,culture,religion teaches the basic things needed for  a person to be good they are LOVE,KINDNESS and COMPASSION . I feel these are the basics a kid should posses  to become a good human .

Love and Respect each other.. Bring Peace !

Children are the future generation . Lets make the World Beautiful and Peaceful !

Love Always , Devi

How to Teach Children About Cultural Awareness and Diversity

 

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Hey Gorgeous people ❤

I would like to share this post to all Moms out there raising kids losing their sleep .This is going to be a very important  lesson a responsible mother should teach her kids.

Have your kids ever wondered why people look different, or talk with an accent, or celebrate different holidays? MyBlogInspires has some tips on teaching your kids about cultural diversity.

We must inspire our children to be curious about the world and to become globally aware. We must teach our children to appreciate, communicate and interact with people across different cultures and in other countries.

By helping your child understand and respect similarities and differences you will also help your child to understand who he is in the context of your race, ethnic group, culture, religion, language and familial history. In so doing, you will provide your child with personally meaningful information and also introduce concepts from anthropology, history, religion, geography, etc.

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You may have  blue eyes , red hair , green eyes , white skin , black skin , curly hair , black hair , differences apart we are all humans . Teach children to LOVE and RESPECT  each other . 

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18 tips on teaching your kids about cultural diversity

  1. Spend more time with kids .
  2. Share more stories about culture diversity .
  3. Purchase a globe or a world map .
  4. Talk to them about different cultures,languages,food,traditional dresses / costumes .
  5. Take kids to history museum .
  6. Attend different event/festivals that celebrate a particular ethnic group .
  7. Teach children different languages .
  8. Build a global mind-set among kids .
  9. Encourage kids to do a holiday activity on global cross culture .
  10. Share your own experience during your childhood day with friends and relative who belong to other religion/culture .
  11. Show them examples by reading books,watching related Television shows and on the internet .
  12. Encourage cross-racial/ethnic friendship .
  13. Expose your children to food from different culture .
  14. Give them exposure to global food,music,art,lifestyle,people .
  15. Travel with kids to different countries or places of worship to know about different cultures and traditions .
  16. You’re a powerful  role model to kids they watch you, absorb you and follow you .
  17. Teach children to love and respect people equally in spite of differences .
  18. Making your child aware of you culture is important. It is better you start as early as possible because anything taught in the early age of the child develops in habit and lasts lifelong. Do not expect that everyone will accept and conceive it in the same way. If you are late, give some time and space and help them understand.

By helping your child understand and respect similarities and differences, you will help him realize he is a wonderfully unique person among many other wonderfully unique people on this earth.

Love and Respect All

(Thank you google search engine for such cute pictures )

 

Love Always , Devi

 

 

How to Celebrate Yourself ?

Good Morning loves, Happy Friday!!!

Today is 1st of December . This is the beginning of new month,new things.. I would like to tell you the lessons I’ve learned last month (November 2017) November has been a great month to me in terms of my business and personal life . It gave me some clear picture of certain things which troubled me for quite sometime now . I’ve learned a very important life lesson in November . I thought lot of young mothers with toddlers need to know it. I would share it with you so that it will be of use to someone .

I’ve learned to be good to myself (learnt to celebrate myself ) . I’ve got some time off from my routine work . I used my thanksgiving holidays to pamper myself. Ha Ha Yes self – pampering is good . Treating yourself good should be the first mantra to all women/mother  . I felt so relaxed and recharged .

Self-love is self-care , Caring yourself well when you get time . Create time for yourself . I have learned to enjoy treating myself . Life is too short to not to treat yourself ! Celebrate all small win . Remember , You are worth it and deserve it !

Love your curves! Embrace your body, your spirit and all that you are! I celebrate myself…💟💟💟 Learn to embrace your natural self

Nothing makes a woman more BEAUTIFUL than the BELIEF that she already is BEAUTIFUL .

Self respect, Self-worth and self-love all start with self. Stop looking outside of yourself for your value. – Rob Liano

As most of the Women thinks, Self-Love is not only exercising  and working out and maintaining figure . A small act which keeps you relaxed and happy is self-care.Get a massage , Get a facial , Go to the local ice cream parlor and indulge in the an ice cream , Go for a new fabulous hair style ,  Go for a long walk, Meditate, Practice yoga , Eat your favorite food, Watch your favorite movie of your choice , Visit friends and family members , Dress up well and take a selfie , Play with your dog, Enjoy your ‘ME -Time’,Go  shopping ( who would say no to shopping 🙂 )  buy your favorite nail polish or lipstick , Buy handbags, Buy the new pair of shoes you have been wanting, Read your favorite book , sleep and rest well and lot more .. Do more of things makes you happy and makes your soul shine .

There is nothing wrong with a constant need to do better- to grow, try new things, to learn and wanting to become a better person. But as you grow and learn, remember to stop once in a while and tell yourself that you’ve done a good job so far. Look at how far you’ve come, don’t be too hard on yourself. Loving yourself isn’t selfish. It’s not about conceit. It’s not about thinking you’re better than someone else. It is, however, a lot more than just “accepting” yourself.

This is what I did to pamper myself .(See pictures below)

1 . I made my hair red .. New-hairdo

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See below , I had fun sharing pictures of my new hair style with my Facebook friends (their comments made me laugh Lol )

2. I cooked my favorite food .

I made my favorite, simple and easy onion garlic gray for lunch.

It’s so easy to prepare and tastes yummy  with white rice.My Mom used to prepare it . (Feeling Nostalgic ) This is a Indian menu .

(Pictures from my Facebook post)

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3 . I had my favorite dishes in Plantain leaf . It’s a nostalgic feeling having food in plantain leaf . ( lot of childhood memories , those days during festive season we used to have festive food (feasting ) in plantain leaf .

 

I’ve learned to love me more and more now.

It’s time to close one door to open the next… Continuously moving forward with confidence and pride in who you are and where you are in your journey! …

Wishing you a new month and beautiful day filled with laughter and abundant love!!!

When was the last time you treated yourself ? What did you do? Would love to see your comments .

Love Always , Devi Venkatesan

 

 

18 things Motherhood has taught me

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What Motherhood has taught me ?

The Journey from Womanhood to Motherhood changes you . Some of the changes are sudden and some happen so gradually that you barely recognize them.It’s hard to believe that I’ve been a parent for almost 10 years now, and I know I still have a lot of learning left to do . Some days are pretty smooth sailing , other days are a total and complete three-ring circus . I love my parental role , but motherhood is one of the hardest jobs I have experienced.

Today I want to tell you what motherhood has taught me . These things might not work for you . But these are the truths that I’ve accepted . Motherhood is the ultimate test of patience , perseverance , and selflessness , all of which I fall short of daily .

Below are the 18 things that motherhood has taught me.

1.Gained more Respect for my Parents : I have gained more respect for my parents . It’s not easy to raise  children . It is the most difficult job . My Mother taught me all that I should posses to become a good human . I’ve gained a whole new level of understanding and love for her.

2. Fast Lunch : I have learnt to have a cup of coffee  in few seconds. I’m a slow eater who used to taste food spoon by spoon . I used to enjoy eating . After my daughter was born I’ve learned to eat fast in few seconds.

3. No plans will work out : Nothing is ever going to go the way you planned it or imagined it . Just let it happen.

4 . Family Dinner : Motherhood taught me the importance of family dinners and holiday traditions .

5 . The best things in life are free : I always thought the defining moments were all big ones like buying a house,landing a good job and so on . Motherhood has taught me that the most joy can be found in everyday moment.. Little things brings big joy . According to me my daughter’s smile,laughter,cuddle,a kiss , a sound night sleep , enjoying a cup of coffee in perfect temperature , a lazy days shower ,and lot more are the best things in life and they are free .

6 .To Appreciate ‘Me-Time’ : Some days you will want to be shower in peace, pee in peace and you will want to be able to sleep uninterrupted . You will need a break . Take care of you so you can take care of kids .

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7 . Mess is unavoidable . Roll with it : I hate disorder , it stresses me out . But as a Mom , living in chaos is the norm . Mess always surrounds me and I’ve learned to accept that there will always be some mess somewhere calling out for my attention.

8 . Time Flies : My mother used to tell me I grew up in a blink . I’ve learned that my parents truly weren’t kidding,your children are only children for such a short time,so enjoy every second .

9. Responsibility : As a mother you are more responsible to raise good humans . The world is in the hands of next generation . I’ve learnt to teach them good habits and disciplines .

10. Who I really am : Motherhood has taught me , my real strengths and weaknesses . It showed me so many things I could do for my kids beyond limits . And the truth is I was not like that before . It changed me . Like others , I did some parenting mistakes too and I am learning from my mistakes to become a good Mother.

11.Flexibility and Patience are essential : Children are such unpredictable little things,they will throw a wrench into the best laid plans .Not to mention illness,accidents,tantrums and hours spent hunting for lost items. I’ve always had somewhat of a rigid personality,when things don’t go as planned,I become uneasy (just ask my husband )I have learned to re-plan and adjust our priorities now .Motherhood has trained me to take on a more flexible attitude and developed patience in me .

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12. Mothers love is unique : Motherhood has taught me how powerful a mothers love for her children can be .

13. Busy has a whole new meaning : I’m super busy now . Getting quick shower or cooking my favorite dish while my baby plays in her room or going to super market alone class as ‘me time’ .

14. Let your children go. Let them climb on their own and let them fall. Pick them up and kiss them when they fall and teach them to shake it off. Don’t hover, don’t overdo it. Let them fail and recover gracefully. This is one of the greatest gifts you can give them. Falling will teach them to fly .

15. There is no such thing as a perfect parent . Learning parenting each and every day .

16. Sleep is a beautiful thing : I realize , Wasted lots of nights on social media but now .. Sleep, I love you and I miss you . Hope all of will agree this point for sure 🙂

17.Going to the bathroom alone is a privilege, not a right. To all my girlfriends without children- it’s weird, I know. Just enjoy the silence, and privacy, while you can.

18. Never stop taking pictures : Motherhood has taught me Pictures are memories captured and with how fast your kids grow you are going to want to have plenty of memories to look back on , and maybe embarrass them with,later on . 🙂

We all learn hundreds of new things every day from motherhood. The lessons can be fun , harsh and crazy .

What have you learnt since becoming a Mother ?

Happy Parenting !

Love Always , Devi